If Richard Armitage fell in love …
[Given that we know nothing specific about the romantic history or current status of the affections of Richard Armitage, please understand this piece as a musing on my part. Picture source.]
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If Richard Armitage fell in love with someone …
… let it be someone he can love without ambivalence, without reservation. Whom he can love as if he’s never been hurt. Who can love him back with the same open abandon.
… let it be someone of independent mind with personal goals. Who can operate autonomously. Someone with enough trust to accommodate separations, and enough determination to bridge them.
… let it be someone who appreciates his guffaws and that mischievous vibe that occasionally escapes from the corners of his eyes at serious moments.
… let it be someone who protects his secrets.
… let it be someone who respects his need for space. Who doesn’t mind his mess. Who likes power tools and relishes a little sawdust in the corners.
… let it be someone who will help him figure out his clothes when he needs to look stunning but doesn’t care about them otherwise.
… let it be someone who honors his loyalty to his family.
… let it be someone who loves to dance with him.
… let it be someone who appreciates all of his gifts and can figure out how to live with a character he’s playing.
… let it be someone who’s kissing Richard for Richard and not for John Porter or Lucas North or Mr. Thornton.
… let it be someone who can watch him barrel down the slopes without a catch of fear in the throat. Or ski right along with him.
… let it be someone who sees when he needs reassurance. Who offers it without pressure, condescension, or calculation.
… let it be someone who loves both gentle caresses and forceful passion.
… let it be someone who relishes how he smells. Someone who particularly appreciates his nose.
… let it be someone for whom he’s willing to relax and slow his life down a bit from time to time.
… let it be someone who can learn to smile at his faults.
… let it be someone with whom he can build a shared vision of the future, whatever that holds for both of them.
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No small list, that. But this is my version of APM: I only want the best for him. The things that make him happiest. The things that make him grin.
Oh, Servetus, I’m in total agreement with you….
let her/him love Richard for himself
let that person also be proud and happy to share him with his castmates and crew when he’s working and then, later on, with the rest of the world when he helps promote his work
let that person understand and respect his need for privacy
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kathryngaul said this on June 15, 2012 at 3:28 am |
Agree 100%. If he wants to be in a relationship, I hope it’s all these things.
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Snicker's Mom said this on June 15, 2012 at 3:29 am |
there is that 🙂
that’s partially why I started it with “if”. If he doesn’t, I totally get it.
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:18 pm |
Otherwise known as ‘The Perfect Woman’ lol. Wonderful! Thouroughly enjoyed it..
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Brandi Tiapula said this on June 15, 2012 at 3:29 am |
well, no doubt I would write this differently if I were looking at it from the other perspective 🙂
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:21 pm |
let that person be able to make him laugh but in a wholly natural and unaffected way, not as a contrivance
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kathryngaul said this on June 15, 2012 at 3:30 am |
great addition.
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:30 pm |
Aww, so sweet. I also hope he finds someone with all those qualities.
Here’s what I would add:
Let it be someone who adores him and isn’t afraid to tell him. Often.
Let it be someone who he thinks is exciting and fun to be with, and who likes to do the same stuff he does.
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Saraleee said this on June 15, 2012 at 3:57 am |
and let him be able to accept the adoration 🙂 that would be hard for me, personally.
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:30 pm |
Everyone could benefit from being adored by someone they adore. 🙂 A mutual adoration society!
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saraleee said this on June 15, 2012 at 6:34 pm |
maybe. I personally dislike it. You can adore me as long as you don’t tell me about it. However, how Richard Armitage feels is totally up to Richard Armitage 🙂
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 6:35 pm |
I would wish this kind of love for everyone. Especially for my children and for my friends. As for me — I’ve got a great love. Reading your list just made me happy and reminded me of the many things I like about my dh (and no, he’s not perfect).
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Beverly said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:27 am |
Absolutely, exactly.
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:31 pm |
Awwww!!!
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Jonia said this on June 15, 2012 at 7:17 am |
Wasn’t this unusually cheery for me? 🙂
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:22 pm |
I think this post will collect enough positive energy to send him all that. Well done. Sending mine. 😉
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antoniaromera said this on June 15, 2012 at 9:05 am |
Let’s hope!
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:31 pm |
Reblogged this on y que iba yo a contar and commented:
Adoro a estas muchachas. Estoy en el mejor grupo the fans del mundo mundial.
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antoniaromera said this on June 15, 2012 at 9:09 am |
thanks for reblogging and for the compliment to the group of Armitage fans!
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:25 pm |
I have decided to make a mantra with this post and read it every morning for him, for you, for me and for all the people. Spreading love. Woo-hoo!!!
Thanks for that post, darling. *mwah*
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antoniaromera said this on June 15, 2012 at 9:24 am |
xoxo!
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:31 pm |
Dear Servetus, this is one of the most beautiful and moving posts I have ever read on any blog.. I had tears in my eyes reading it. Thank you so, so very much. 🙂 Let’s hope RA finds a soulmate to make him happy (if he hasn’t already!)! He deserves it.
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Judit said this on June 15, 2012 at 10:05 am |
I’m touched. And yes — I wish him every happiness!
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:32 pm |
Awww! Such posts remind me why I love your blog Servetus! I’d like to suggest:
…let it be someone who appreciates his thoughtfulness.
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raddicted said this on June 15, 2012 at 11:16 am |
that’s a great addition. I thought about something like “let it be someone who is as kind as he is” but didn’t know how to put it.
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:23 pm |
Then I’m glad I dared to put it here. I hesitated.
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raddicted said this on June 15, 2012 at 5:11 pm |
I don’t think I’ve ever written a post that couldn’t stand a little improvement 🙂
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 5:13 pm |
That’s good to hear :). I hesitated because I wasn’t sure myself if I’d put this point on the list – I like your points much more. Additionally I wondered if my point isn’t already included somewhere else.
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raddicted said this on June 15, 2012 at 5:31 pm |
Wouldn’t it be surprising if he returns from NZ and we find out he had met and married someone during his time there?
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cindy said this on June 15, 2012 at 11:29 am |
that would be surprising indeed!
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:23 pm |
You probably ticked all the boxes, servetus. Including self-sufficience. A sense of humour would be mandatory, too. 😀
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fitzg said this on June 15, 2012 at 12:02 pm |
yeah, someone who can live their own life independently of him if necessary while he’s working.
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:23 pm |
A friend of mine told me today that she has a crush on my ex and asked for my permission to pursue him. It’s a bit ewww (if you need to ask, then you probably shouldn’t be doing it…) and plenty freaky, but I would be OK if they ended up loving each other, just like you described above. That kind of love is the only way I’d be ok with the two of them together. Oh Love, what fools it makes of us all!
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IWantToBeAPinUp said this on June 15, 2012 at 12:41 pm |
nice quotation and probably the smartest line in that show.
it is kind of ewww. Hopefully you’re over him enough not to care to much.
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:24 pm |
That this takes place for each one of us!
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Ana Cris said this on June 15, 2012 at 1:20 pm |
As usual, Ana Cris gets the deeper epistemological immediately 🙂
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:25 pm |
A very lovely post, Servetus,
I wish for Richard Armitage every happiness that he wishes for himself.
Cheers! Grati ;->
P.S. I extend that wish to everyone.
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Gratiana Lovelace said this on June 15, 2012 at 1:21 pm |
me too 🙂
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:32 pm |
What a wonderful list, Servetus. I hope he finds all that and I wish lots of happy days for them both.
Thank you for this. For a strange reason, your post really makes me happy, as if the listing of all these good and insightful wishes brings RA closer to their fulfillment ;o)
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cdoart said this on June 15, 2012 at 2:44 pm |
it was funny how happy writing this post made me feel, so we’re even 🙂
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:33 pm |
Thanks Servetus, a post like this makes you believe again!
Really wonderful, it only remains to wish you and all the girls the same…
I’m so happy right now 🙂 I cannot stop smiling! 🙂
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vec170203 said this on June 15, 2012 at 3:55 pm |
Let’s spread the smile all over the world 🙂
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:33 pm |
This post makes my heart happy! This is the kind of love that I would wish for everyone I care about. As Mr. Armitage has brought so much joy to my life, I can’t help but hope he has found or will find such a person.
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jasrangoon said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:44 pm |
I figured there were multiple ways the message of this post could be understood, and that reading was one of the things I hoped people would get from it.
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servetus said this on June 15, 2012 at 4:55 pm |
Truly beautiful thoughts.
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Juliette said this on June 15, 2012 at 8:55 pm |
thanks and welcome!
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servetus said this on June 16, 2012 at 5:21 am |
Oh, ♥♥♥ so sweet.♥♥♥ I wish everyone who seeks true love to find someone who would have all these features.
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Ania said this on June 15, 2012 at 9:18 pm |
all these and more. We should all be so lucky.
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servetus said this on June 16, 2012 at 5:21 am |
Oh…how lovely!:)
I will be compelled to love this person. 😉
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Joanna said this on June 15, 2012 at 10:04 pm |
you know, I hadn’t thought of it, but obviously if he fell in love with someone like this we’d be spared the need to run that person down for not being worthy of him.
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servetus said this on June 16, 2012 at 5:22 am |
We wouldn’t know all those little things, we would judge that person on a much more superficial basis, the closest we would come is determinating if they look happy in pics and if the relationship lasts. I also hope, if he finds such a person, he is all those things for his partner as well, otherwise it would be a little bit unfair.
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Jane said this on June 18, 2012 at 2:03 pm |
You’re so right, Jane….I think the relationship should be built on mutual respect and benefit both partners. As nice as we think Richard might be, he will need to give as good as he gets!
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kathryngaul said this on June 18, 2012 at 2:17 pm |
well, that would be a different post, wouldn’t it? 🙂 It could be called: “If Richard Armitage were a great partner, he would …” I don’t think anything I said in this post takes him off the hook; it was a post about choicemaking as an aspect of infatuation. And that we can’t and shouldn’t know a lot of these things doesn’t mean we can’t or shouldn’t wish for them for him.
🙂
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servetus said this on June 18, 2012 at 3:42 pm |
May be he has already found his perfect love, may be in NZ?
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ellen said this on June 15, 2012 at 11:18 pm |
No one would be happier than me if that were true 🙂
Well, except him, probably. He would probably be happier than me.
Thanks for the comment and welcome.
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servetus said this on June 16, 2012 at 5:23 am |
AMEN! I hope everyone finds this !!!
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@Rob said this on June 16, 2012 at 12:42 am |
That would really be super.
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servetus said this on June 16, 2012 at 5:23 am |
I don’t know how I managed to miss this until now. A great list, with lovely additions, so well worth wanting for him, and with slight modifications, for all those capable of loving and being loved. Where there is intention, there is hope.
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Leigh said this on June 16, 2012 at 6:03 am |
one hopes.
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servetus said this on June 17, 2012 at 6:32 pm |
This is the loveliest blog post ever! 😀
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Nietzsche said this on June 17, 2012 at 9:38 am |
thanks for the kind comment, Nietzsche!
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servetus said this on June 17, 2012 at 6:33 pm |
This is a truly lovely post, and something one hopes for all.
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CC said this on June 21, 2012 at 8:26 pm |
Thanks, CC. Hope all is well with you!
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servetus said this on June 22, 2012 at 5:54 pm |
I’m so glad I caught up with this, what a beautiful post, servetus! I second everything you and the others have said. I too want what is best for him and for what makes him happiest.
I truly believe that finding love in NZ would be the best way for it to happen for him…under the radar, so the relationship has been allowed to blossom and grow away from the curious eyes of his fans. There’s been plenty of time for it to happen!
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Mezz said this on June 22, 2012 at 8:25 am |
You mean he’s not going to pop across the Tasman and meet and fall in love with ME, Mezz? 😦 Now I really am heartbroken at that thought! 😉
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kathryngaul said this on June 22, 2012 at 11:57 am |
Glad it spoke to you, Mezz. I too hope he is happy with what’s happening in his life in NZ!
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servetus said this on June 22, 2012 at 5:55 pm |
He likes to find love with no acting job, having marriage, and have children.
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unknown said this on March 5, 2013 at 9:58 am |
Thanks for the comment, unknown, and welcome to the blog!
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Servetus said this on March 8, 2013 at 10:28 pm |
You welcome =)
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unknown said this on March 9, 2013 at 8:02 am |
He has special crush of women of all ages.
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unknown said this on March 9, 2013 at 9:13 pm |
Also looking for a new lady who slightly naughty and loves food and etc,.
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unknown said this on March 16, 2013 at 9:57 pm |
[…] “If Richard Armitage fell in love,” June 15, 2012. I like this one a lot, even […]
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Celebrating Richard Armitage and his fans in 2012: Some “me + richard armitage” data « Me + Richard Armitage said this on December 31, 2012 at 11:48 pm |
Thanks for reminding us of your beautiful essay here. Your wishes for Richard Armitage’s happiness are good insights about love for everyone.
Holiday Cheers and Love! Grati ;->
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Gratiana Lovelace said this on January 2, 2013 at 12:50 am |
thanks. well, maybe except the one about sawdust.
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Servetus said this on January 5, 2013 at 12:45 am |
you make me cry…………………………lovely!!!
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livia said this on January 2, 2013 at 6:55 pm |
aaaw, thanks.
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Servetus said this on January 5, 2013 at 12:44 am |
[…] written a lot about love this year. About the kind of person I hope Richard Armitage falls in love with, if he’s so inclined. About the people who love us. About what romantic desire of Armitage […]
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Learning love, loving first « Me + Richard Armitage said this on February 14, 2013 at 4:43 pm |
He had to keep finding the right lady who wants to get married, no acting job, and have children. Also he wants a bit naughty and loves food.
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unknown said this on June 1, 2013 at 8:11 am |